Last week when I met with my therapist, I brought up something that has been eating me up. I have the kids the majority of the time and what that means is that I am the one brushing their teeth, flossing, waking them up for school, getting them fed and out of the house,etc… Essentially, I am doing all the mundane things that are not very fun. I worry about that because when their dad comes home, he takes them to Candyland and on fun outings. Suddenly, everything is happy and fun.
Then tonight, my mix emotions were confirmed with Chloe. Their dad suddenly decides to show up to take them to go get their Christmas trees. Its also a school night and they have to be in bed early. We went anyway but I told them that we can’t decorate it tonight because they needed to get to bed. Chloe blurted out how “angry” and “sad” she was at me for not letting her stay up to decorate her tree. Then later she told me that she didn’t like me because I floss her teeth every night and that she was “allergic to flossing.”
Okay, normally this wouldn’t bother me so much but tonight it really stung. The reality is I am going to be that parent that have to do all the hard part of parenting and it totally sucks.